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Reciprocity and Influence In a Digital Age of Persuasive Marketing

Receprocity

ReceprocityAre we at a point in human nature where reciprocity and social norms are changing?

Mitch Joel‘s recent blog post The Myth Of Reciprocity And The Social Life Of Brands has inspired me to finally write this blog post that I’ve been thinking about for quite some time, ever since I read Robert B. Cialdini‘s book, Influence: The Science of Persuasion , which in my opinion is the Bible of influence and persuasion.

In Dr. Cialdini’s book he outlines reciprocity as one of the six weapons of influence that span all nations and cultures. Reciprocity is as Dr. Cialdini and many other psychologists and students of influence, describe reciprocity as an inherent human need to give back or return a favor that was done for us. The classic example that is always given is that of asking a neighbor to borrow a cup of sugar. The neighbor is obliged to lend you the sugar out of generosity and since the neighbor knows you and probably more importantly, knows where you live, so they can get their cup back, presumably you’ve used the sugar to bake oatmeal raisin cookies (my favorite) or something. The borrower of the sugar in a pinch with an unfinished batch of oatmeal raisin cookie mixture on the kitchen counter turns to her neighbor for help and in turn, feels the need to return the favor at a later date, thus the principle of reciprocation.

They say, human nature doesn’t change, but more and more I see the influence of digital communication changing things, changing us, changing culture and slowly but surely molding the evolution of humanity.

When Twitter was new there was no digital social norm established, following back was the only thing we could do, so mirroring our non-digital norms, we naturally followed. However the reason why I think reciprocity may be changing is that it’s too easy to follow someone back thus the internal pull to respond to our nature to reciprocate is also lower. Now it’s just lending the sugar without the cup.

In the new digital world there’s no skin off your back, to do the lending, of following or (insert any future shiny object action here). Because of this, the value of the cup of sugar drops dramatically, so low in fact that the need, that psychological pull to reciprocate is also low, to the point of non-existent I think. Over the long term, we may evolve into a culture where reciprocation in the digital world becomes devalued.

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By Bobby Hewitt

Bobby Hewitt is the founder of Creative Thirst. A conversion rate optimization agency for health and wellness companies with a specialized focus in dietary supplements. We’ve helped health clients profitably scale using our four framework growth model validated through A/B testing. Bobby has over 17 years of experience in web design and Internet marketing and holds a bachelors degree in Marketing from Rutgers University. He is also certified in Online Testing and Landing Page Optimization and won the Jim Novo Award of Academic Excellence for Web Analytics. As well as a public speaker and contributing author to “Google Analytics Breakthrough: From Zero to Business Impact, published by Wiley.